The Archetype of The Authentic Lover

The Archetype of the Authentic Lover

by Apollo Grace

One of the ways the masculine grows is through understanding and incorporating archetypes. An archetypal masculine character, whether he's abstract (such as the Warrior, the Magician, or the Wild Man) or a specific character from religion or myth (such as Ganesha, Apollo, or Dionysius) reveals unique truths about the nature of men. By contemplating these characters and investigating their qualities, we are inspired to become more fully the sort of men we want to be.

For inspiration in the realms of intimacy and relationship, I offer the archetype of the Authentic Lover.

Respect

The Authentic Lover knows and respects his own needs, boundaries, and desires.
Whatever the challenges of the world and his relationship, he does not abandon himself!
He seeks to understand the needs, boundaries, and desires of his partner, and respects those as well.

Sensuality

The Authentic Lover honors his own body.
He values and welcomes pleasure as a part of his divine birthright, and as an integral part of the practice of intimacy.
He initiates intimate connection with his partner.

Responsibility

The Authentic Lover is honest with his parter about his own experience.
He is accountable for his mistakes, and also willing to forgive himself for them.
He notices his moods when they arise, and takes responsibility for resolving them.
He commits to maintaining honesty, integrity, and transparency unconditionally - no matter what mood he is in.

Vulnerability

The Authentic Lover is willing to surrender his pride - anytime and anywhere that it serves his truth and his intimate connections.
He understands that life is play, and is ready to not be so serious.
He asks for help when he needs it - from his partner, from friends, from the Divine, or from professional resources.